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1. What Is BDSM?
BDSM is an acronym for Bondage Discipline Sadomasochism and it can also stand for other words such as Domination, Submission. BDSM is a compilation of fetishes or sexual practices that can help both partners achieve sexual gratification with the help of restraints, control, and pain. People practicing BDSM are always extremely welcoming, broad-minded, and indulgent to listen to suggestions from anyone with a sexual kink without getting easily offended. Click here to visit more information about it. Traditionally, society always had a bit of difficulty accepting BDSM norms and insisted on labeling them as perversions. Today, people no longer have trouble acknowledging that mild bondage or some form of spanking could be used to obtain sexual pleasure.
2. What Are The Different Types Of BDSM?
BDSM can be divided into three different subcategories: bondage and discipline, submission-domination aka sub-dom, and sadism-masochism. All of these practices can be recognized by a disparity between the preferences of each partner where one likes to be tied up or spanked and the other enjoys tying up or spanking their partner. It is critical to remember that both partners must be informed and consent to all of the behavior and actions that will take place during foreplay and procreation. Some people also identify as “switches”, meaning that they can play the dominant or submissive role based on their inclination with their partner.
3. Bondage & Discipline
Bondage is a form of an erotic and carnally passionate session that has satisfaction all on its own without the need for an erotically satisfying culmination. There are always exceptions to this rule as amateurs and dilettantes like to experiment with bondage as a form of contemporary and avant-garde foreplay for their session. Discipline is when sexual partners enjoy being controlled and restrained either through a form of communication or physically by their partner. Bondage can mean one of the partners being handcuffed, tied up with ropes, or left hanging in a constrained position.
Japanese Kinbaku is a form of bondage where the aesthetics of the session are an important factor in the entire session. Kinbaku is Japanese for ‘to bind tightly’ and it translates into a form of the verb. The aesthetics could involve the body being set up in a particular formation or the ropes being organized in a particularly attractive arrangement. The actual aesthetics of the session depends on the consent of the two partners based on the different materials and designs of the ropes.
The dominant partner, it could be either the male or female, is the one who does all the disciplining. They can demand that their partner do mundane activities wearing fetish clothing without the pleasure of doing certain specific things. The disciplining session is often a one-to-one session that is merged with bondage to make the overall experience much more satisfying. This is why the terms bondage and discipline are almost always used together.
4. Submission / Domination
A submission/domination session is not always totally sexual and sometimes it might not even be passionate or lustful. It entails one partner controlling the other based on a set sequence of events or series of developments that are preordained before the session and agreed upon by both partners. The dominant individual might ask their partner to go to the grocery store wearing nothing but a raincoat which can be both thrilling and embarrassing for their partner. There are some buzzwords associated with the submission/domination scene and here we do a quick rundown of the most used words.
5. Submissive / Sub / Bottom / Slave
All of these terms are used to describe the compliant or docile partner who is willing to relinquish responsibility to follow the whims and desires of their partner. This means that the sub will let their partner take charge and decide the fate of the session based on actions that have been approved by both parties in advance. Strange as it may seem, people working in extremely pressurized day jobs where they are always calling the shots, take pleasure in being controlled in this way. It can be because this is the time they can let someone else take leadership of the situation instead of always having to be in control.
6. Dominant / Dom / Top / Master or Mistress
All of these words are used to describe the individual who will be in charge of deciding how the session plays out. Traditionally, the male is always set to be the dom or the master but people practicing BDSM don’t always follow conventional rules and regulations. This means that a mistress could be the one giving out orders for a man to follow.
7. Switches
Switches are people who can be playing either a sub or dom role as the session plays out. A switch does not mind being a versatile participant in the performance.
8. Dominatrix
In a society that was once dominated completely by men, women are now reversing the roles of men in charge. The term “dominatrix” refers to a woman who is not hesitant to assert her dominance which is sometimes also referred to as a “pro-domme” or professionally dominant woman for the role-playing session.
9. Safety & Safe Words In BDSM
Safewords are a set of words or phrases which when uttered stops the role-playing session immediately. Some BDSM participants like to use a set of codes to function as code words to direct the role-playing session. One form of codewords is to use traffic light colors. For example, green can mean “don’t stop”, amber can mean “don’t go too fast”, and red means “stop right away”. BDSM clubs and societies take their safe words seriously and a breach of following the conduct set for the safe words can result in being denied entry into the club.
